Marriage is divinely uphold by God and built upon Christ the
Solid rock. Marriage is all about companionship: an act of meeting needs of one
another. Marriage is enjoyable, sweet and lovely only when you acquired the
necessary knowledge, wisdom and consistently calling upon Christ the Solid Rock
of defense to defend it. If you marry a wrong
person everything about you will be totally wrong. If you marry because of
money, you will never experience peace or joy in latter day. If you marry in
order to overcome masturbation or fornication you will certainly continue in
your sexual immoral enterprise after few months.
Marriage isn't an escape route of escaping from certain addicted
hurdles or turmoil’s of life because the very troubles you are running or
shying away and refused to defeat will surely consumed you in your marital
life. Problems are meant to overcome and not to run-away from because experience
is great lesson. Marriage is unique and ordained by heavens. Marriage is never
divorced; it's for better and for worse.
THE UNFORTUNATE
SCENARIO ABOUT MARRIAGE
There is a clamor call and rush for marriage especially
among the female’s folks; perhaps due to overage, peer pressure or family
troubles. However, they are striving how to get-out from their family
persistence pressure about marriage. It doesn't matter who comes on their ways,
rich, poor, unbeliever, spiritual minded, wizard, arm-robber, assassin or occultist;
they don't care.
Months ago while counseling a sister on marital issue.
Moreover, she is financially buoyant but not maritally balanced. She said; i
don't care who comes on my way now. I don't give dime about his tribe inasmuch
he is human being. In fact, am ready to support him financially for any marital
expenses. Honestly, I felt for the beloved sister because age wasn’t on her
side. Now due to over-age she wants to soul-ties herself with any man, either
unbelievers or wizard—that is wrong..!
I absolutely believe in heavenly report and not what people
are gossiping about you. Marriage is not what you just rush-in without awaiting
heavenly report irrespective of over-age. I still believe that God isn’t yet
through with his programs in your life. Here is my candy advice to every
beloved sister who is seriously waiting upon God for marital breakthrough. Please
don’t be intimidated or felt as if you are over-age.
Moreover, in such perception, the Holy Ghost will prove to
you that you certainly deserved the best inasmuch you are spiritually living
right before the Lord. And for as many craving into marital business, perhaps
have already behold their life partner, gotten engage or still revolving around
courtship or still in field of ultimate search. There is what i called MARRIAGE BELL; which comprises.
- The Marriage Warning Bell.
- The Marriage Wedding
Bell.
THE WARNING BELL:
The marriage warning bell is always behold during courtship or while trying to
get engaged with your life partner. God will definitely cause the proposed fiancé/fiancée
that you have engaged to begin to unveil his/her hidden irritating character or
attitudes. God will show you several signs of the man/woman character for you
to decide and make your decision; whether to proceed ahead with the marriage or
dissolved it.
After the fall of Adam in Garden of Eden; where he frankly
blamed God for giving him wife; God has deliberately decided to withdraw his
hand from giving any man/woman wife or husband. As it was written; Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth
favour of the Lord, Proverb 18;22. God has already prepared many godly
women as a wife for every man. The
appropriate step is to pray, search for, discover and afterward a confirmation
from God.
There is God perfect will in marriage but it's unfortunate
that many Christians and even single pastors don't love to embraced God perfect
will for them in marriage; probably, the young lady might be an illiterates,
blind, lame, dwarf or comes from a very poor family or wicked background. They will rather go after permissive will; this
nonchalant attitude always frown God.
He demands them to rather go and seek for themselves and
after they found; they should called upon him for confirmation. Therefore, you
have to seek and find your own wife while the grace of God abideth with you. Those unveiled irritating character of your
fiancé or fiancée are ignited for you in order to behold the pathetic nature of
your betroth wife/husband in order not to cried and start blaming God tomorrow
or after the sound of wedding bell.
The marriage warning bell is always experienced by anyone
who has beheld his/her life partner. It always rang continuously in the ear of
those who are already engages or about to takes their marriage vows or still
searching for life partner. Marriage warning bell it's a divine program from
the Lord in order to compel both partners for an urgent manifestation of their
ugly sides.
Moreover, in most case they will tend to suppressed or
concealed those ugly attitude from their partner. They will rather prefer to
live in pretends and camouflage lifestyles. Nevertheless; such ugly character
will definitely continue to show-fort. Sometimes the opposite partner might be
blinded to acknowledge it or takes it unserious due to lust or love or whatever
he/she might call it.
They will rather conclude;
- Ooh don't worry mum; he/she will certainly change when
he/she heard the preaching of my pastor.
- Please Dad, let me go into fasting and praying and also
preach to him/her, i believe he/she will change.
- Please don’t worry yourself my friend, when we got marry God
will take over and things will get better---MY DEAR, YOU ARE A BIG FOOL.
For your information, if you marry someone because of pity
or blinded by love, lust and refuse to meditate and takes heed to those warning
bell or signal whom your parents or friends observed in your espouse, without
learning how to endure and tolerate those irritating characters; but rather
decide to indulges into Marathon of praying and fasting and hoping for him/her
to change—YOU WILL BLAME YOURSELF.
Honestly, you will be the most idiotic, foolish,
unfortunate, frustrated, helpless, and hopeless and ignoramus Christian on earth.
How do you think you going convert or change someone ugly sides? When have you
become a Holy Ghost? Those erroneous signal attitudes are propelling from God in
order to preview what your partner is made of. And also to get you equipped and
ready to endure and tolerate whatsoever you might behold in your marital
journey; so you wouldn't blame God or charge him foolishly after the final
wedding bell, as Adam.
THE WEDDING BELL;
the marriage wedding bell is the last ringing bell in every intended marriage
relationship and after this bell no more turning back. It is a vowing bell of acceptance of each other before the presence of
high priest of Jehovah in his Holy sanctuary. Howbeit; after taking such vows
and exchanges of bible----because wedding ring is a jewelry and abominable in
the sight of God and not acceptable and should be avoided in every marriage vow
or covenant.
After taken an oath, to cherish and love each other until death
does apart, there is no turning back or divorcement because God hates
separation----divorce is from the pit of hell. That is reason why; i regards
marriage as LUCK. After wedding the real business commenced because wedding is
just a ritual or ceremony that need to be enacted. Marital journey began a day
after wedding and whatsoever character you behold in your spouse please kindly
endured and overlook.
THE STORY OF NEWLY
MARRIED COUPLE
A new married couple makes a decision after their honey
moon. They don't want to offend each other; so they both agree to always write
out every irritating attitude of each other for a month. At the end of the
month, they both sat round the table to present each other ugly report---what
he/she behold and dislike or dispersed of other.
However, the husband asked the wife to present her report.
She angrily presented the ugly sides she found in her husband. She enlisted about 20 hated and erroneous attitudes
of her husband; starting from anger, snoring, too judgmental, football addict,
movie and music fans and many others. Afterward, she asked her husband to
present his own report concerning her ugly or irritating attitude.
The young man tearfully looks at his wife and said; my dear,
i didn't write any evil report against you. You are a perfect woman and lovely
wife whom i have decided to share the rest of my life. Whatever ugly sides or
irritating attitude i behold in you, it will makes me to seek for another woman
outside who doesn't possess such horrible character. My dear, though am not a
perfect husband but you are a perfect wife to me. Everything i behold in you is
completely perfect and you are irreplaceable.
I vowed to love you in both ugliness and goodness. I
sincerely love both your ugly side and glorious side of life. My dear i will
continue to care and love you even if my entire family dispersed you. I will
continue to cherish everything about you even if the whole world hated you. MY
DEAR, I LOVE EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE PRICELESS. After this
compassionate confession; the wife burst into tears; weeping and kissing her
dear beloved husband.
CONCLUSION
Marriage warning bell
can ring for years while associating in courtship or trying to understand
or know more about the attracted partner, for personal decision. While wedding bell only rang once and
afterward the rest is history, for better and for worse until death do you
apart. Therefore, don't behold marriage as an escape route of your
troubles or felt intimidated and emotional thwarted just because Miss Juliet,
your bosom friend is married.
ADVICE TO SISTERS
SEEKING FOR MARITAL BREAKTHROUGH
- Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. It’s
a sign of disrespect. Proverbs 15:1 "A soft
answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
- Don’t expose your husband’s weaknesses to your family and
friends. It will bounce back at you because you are each other’s keeper. Ephesians 5:12 For it is a shame even to speak of those
things which are done of them in secret.
- Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your
husband, you never know how your husband will interpret them--Defensive women
don’t have a happy home. Proverbs 15:13 A merry
heart maketh a cheerful countenance: but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is
broken.
- Never compare your husband to other men, you have no idea
what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will
diminish. Matthew 24:12 And because iniquity shall
abound, the love of many shall wax cold.
- Never ill treat your husband’s friends because you don’t like
them. The person who’s supposed to get rid of them is your husband. Proverbs 11:22 As a jewel of gold in a swine's snout, so
is a fair woman which is without discretion.
- Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid
or anyone else. Do your duties and if you don't know how to prepare different
delicacies or perfect in laundry. You better begin your learning NOW. Colossians 3:18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own
husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
- Never bidden anyone to give attention to your husband or
perhaps due to church activities; such person may be perfect in everything but
your husband is your own responsibility. Ephesians
5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as
himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
- Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty
handed; rather encourage him. 1 Thessalonians 5:11
NIV "Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in
fact you are doing"
- Never be a wasteful wife, your husband is sweat and too
precious to be wasted. Proverbs 12:4 NLT "A
worthy wife is a crown for her husband, but a disgraceful woman is like cancer
in his bones"
- Never pretend to be sick or fasting for the purpose of
denying your husband sex. If you keep denying him, it is a matter of time
before another woman takes over that duty. 1 Corinthians
7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye
may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan
tempt you not for your incontinency.
