1. DECENCY: There
is an idiom which says "the way you
dress is the way you are addressed" Ladies must make sure that they
dress and present themselves decently or in modest manner. Some ladies think is
by dressing half-naked, seducing men by wearing tight skirt, spaghetti, bomber
skirt, women trouser, exposing laps, armpit, painting and makes-up, perhaps
will easily get them laid or get attracted to men.
Yes, you will be attracted because men are observant but
sincerely knew what is good. Certainly, no spiritual Christian brother would
ever want to marry Jezebel. Therefore, covered every part of your body
appropriately with outfits that complement your figure, if you dress
seductively brothers may take you as prostitute and too cheap.
2. BE FRIENDLY TO ALL:
You must be approachable. Make it possible for people to get along with you so
easily, always show love, caring and kindness to everyone who approaches you.
Learn to always wear smiles on your face.
3. HARDWORKING:
You must be hard working-able to do something. Knowing how to put your house in
order; learn how to cook, knowing how to take care of your home without
instruction. Try to make an effort to do something with your hands without
always depending on others for help.
4. RESPECT FOR PEOPLE:
Respect is always another key to get a marriage proposal from a Christian brother.
The truth is beauty is not the ultimate in marriage but character and
personality. Beauty can attract a man to you, but it’s your character that
determines whether he stays or not. People normally observe your character from
afar. You may not know that someone is studying you.
5. THE FEAR OF GOD:
You must fear God by committing your way to Him in everything. Be spiritual and
always makes yourself available for weekly church activities and night vigil;
you never know who is taken keen-watch at your spiritual life.
6. BE NATURAL:
You must stay away from artificial beauty, maintain your natural beauty. All
those make-ups don't show you are beautiful. For all the glamour advertisement
out there, the fake boobs, hair attachments, hair dyes etc; are all wasteful
because man always appreciates something that is genuine. Be natural and don't camouflage.
You want him to get to know the real you because it is the
real you he is going to live with when you are married. Moreover, there is no cosmetic that can gain a beauty like you. Psalm 139;14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and
wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right
well.
7. COMMUNICABLE:
Communication is also another key to get proposal from a Christian brother and
it play a lot of role. You must be able to ask questions, allow people to
freely express themselves with you. Always feel free to bring out what is in
your mind, able to entertain people and this will allow people to feel comfortable
with you.
Even in a scenario where there is no topic to discussed,
just think about some pleasant to chat or discussed with him. Always, ensure
you are outspoken and not shy and make your conversation with people very
effective and interesting. Adhering to this fact, i strongly believe by special
grace of God you will certainly get your godly marriage proposal very soon in Jesus
name.
WHAT CAN WE CALL
THIS---IS IT LOVE OR ATTACHMENT?
Sometimes ago, someone ask, “To love someone whom isn’t emotionally attached with you, but you
seem to felt some magically intense of feeling for him/her, Please is it a sin?
Actually, I laugh it off and reply, “Well, isn’t a sin because you are
recommended to love everyone, hence, it becomes sinful when you become
engrossed in lustfulness over such person”
However, in the midst of the conversation I strongly
perceived, such person was not actually fallen in love or whatever he/she might
called it but rather attached with the person. I have beheld some friends who will
profess, “Hi, evangelist, am seriously in-love
with that sister” I will reply” Wooow, well nothing wrong in loving, but
what prompted this sudden love, what did you behold inside her?
He will continue, "In
fact, evangelist, the sister is so nice, caring, charming, dress modesty,
spiritual, prayerful, with melody voice, very good singer, gentle, and
soft-minded; am always happy, joyful and secured whenever am with her----I just
love her.!" I will just laugh out and continue, "Alright, I have heard you my beloved, but remember I don’t
sanction girl friend relationship, so tell me where your new found-love is
leading?"
He will respond; "marriage
of cause…!" I will exclaimed, "Marriage? woow, Glory be to
God" Afterward, I will began to counsel him on how to set-out some
boundaries while nurturing the relationship. Nevertheless, the first thought that often runs through my
mind while counseling such friend; “Lord,
I pray may this relationship work-out and hope isn’t another aroma of
ATTACHMENT”
However, we have behold those friends who often jump from
relationship to relationship, and each time, professing of been “totally and completely in love” Some who
have been single longer and has one time felt crushed or tend to felt some
emotional feelings with someone. Probably, during the period of working out or building-up a
relationship with prospective aim of marriage—Sometimes, I can’t help but
wonder, how can someone possibly be “in
love” with all these people we have some-how associated or sometimes has
emotional feeling or crushed with?
I mean, can love actually propel from such
relationship or feeling? Perhaps, it’s fear of being alone, I guess? But what if your feeling is wrong? What if you're just so
scared of being alone, that anyone who comes close to making you feels safe and
secure feels like your soul-mate? You can attest of those previous
relationships you got out of, and after few months, you couldn't believe you
ever said (I LOVE YOU) those three beautiful words to someone, whom today has
become demonic reincarnate brother/sister.
How could you profess
love to someone who is now ugly, poor, devil and so bizarre? Someone, which is
no-longer your type? Well, it's usually because, IT WAS NOT LOVE. It was
ATTACHMENT. You were emotionally attached to him/her and misinterpreting it for
love. However, I don’t have real insight in knowing if your love is real or if
it's just insecurity masked. And if
you are not sure about your own love motives, take a look at below list to
decipher if what you're doing is worth all the time invested.
DIFFERENT BETWEEN
LOVE AND ATTACHMENT IN RELATIONSHIP
1. Love Is Passionate----Attachment Is Apathetic. They say the closest feeling to love is hate, hence why after
you break up with someone, all that beautiful, selfless love turns into raging
and inexplicable hate? When you are just attached to someone, however, you never
really get that rage. You get obsession, anxiety and moments of irritation, but
you don't let those anxious feelings confuse you for something as beautiful and
important as real hate.
2. Love Is Self-less----Attachment Is Self-Centered. When you are in love, it's all
about the other person. For the first time in your life, you want to put
someone else's needs before your own. When
it's just attachment, you just want someone to be there before you. You are not
looking out for him or her — you're looking out for you. The only reason you are calling this person is just because you
don’t want to be lonely. Everything you do for your partner is a little bit
about you.
3. Love Is Hard---Attachment Is only Difficult When Your A Apart. Real love is never easy. You did think it would be
because it's so pure and beautiful, but anything that intense and life-changing
takes work. You must cultivate it and keep it nourished. With attachment,
there's nothing to grow and feed; it's just about how many times you can see
each other in a week. You need this person the same way a drug addict need a
fix. It’s not growing, blooming or changing into another dimension. Like any
drug, the high is not long-term, and you will come down.
4. Love Is Freeing----- Attachment Is Possessive. When you're in love, you don't need to see the person to feel
safe. You don't need to be with this person to understand how he or she feels.
You never wonder about your love's affection and never get jealous. When it's just attachment, you never
have a true hold on your partner's feelings because the only time you feel safe
is when you are with him or her. When
you’re apart, you can’t help but wonder what, or who, he or she is doing. If
they are also just attached, doesn’t that mean they need someone to attach to?
5. Love Is Empowering----Attachment Is All About Power. There's nothing like real love
to make you feel like you can do anything. It gives you a new sense of freedom,
a rejuvenated energy. You're alive and ready to take on the world. When it's
just an attachment, it becomes a power struggle. You want to make sure you are
the one in the relationship who doesn't get left. You're the one calling the
shots, and you are the one with the key to the handcuffs.
6. Love Is Timeless----Attachment Is Timed. When you are in love — and I mean really
in love — that's it. Whether it works out or not, this person will always be
the love of your life. Attachment doesn't work like that. Attachment is always
on a deadline, always on standby. Attachment isn't real — it's like a midpoint
for real love. I believe, one of these days, one of you is going to find that
all that attachment you placed on each other will fall off as quickly as you
put it on; because real love doesn’t fall off; it stays with you forever.
